Friday, 13 September 2019 "I never thought it would happen to me..." Kat Seney–Williams on Thriving as a Single Parent

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I’m sure that most single parents never daydreamed as children about raising children on our own one day. Single parenthood can be planned, of course, but it often comes about because of a crisis. Our partner may have left us – as mine did, we may have been bereaved, left an abusive relationship, had a one-night stand, been cheated on or even have been raped.

As well as often needing to handle difficult practical and financial consequences there are a torrent of emotions to contend with – perhaps anger, guilt, loss, fear, relief. One of my aims in writing this book was to help readers acknowledge these feelings and give them strategies to cope with them in a healthy way.

A huge emotional aftershock for me was the feeling of hopelessness. Everything I’d built up over the past 15 years of marriage had come crashing down around me and there was nothing I could do to fix it. It was a dark, dark time, but one day during a time of prayer, I was reminded of the scripture in Jeremiah 29:11: “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you, to give you hope and a future.”

The words hope and future sprang out from the pages at me. I realised at that moment that there was hope, that I had a future, and that it could be a good one. It was the catalyst that helped me begin to put my life back together, one piece at a time. The actor and quadriplegic Christopher Reeve said, “Once you choose hope, anything is possible”, and one of the main reasons I wanted to write this book was to offer others the same hope that I’d been given.

I have a Christian faith, but I have written Surviving and Thriving on the Single-Parent Journey for people of all faiths and none. My goal is to walk alongside readers as their travel companion, supporting and encouraging them each step of the way, and passing on lessons I’ve learnt as well as stories and tips from other single parents.

Whatever reason has led the reader to being on this journey, and whatever stage they are at, I believe they can find themselves somewhere within the pages of this book. And just as I did, I want them to know as single parents they don’t just have to survive – they can discover a future full of hope for them and their children.

Kat Seney-Williams' new book, Surviving and Thriving on the Single-Parent Journey, is available now. To find out more about Care for the Family, head over to their website.